My partner and I have been together for 5 years he has schizophrenia and I am bipolar. We would like to get married but he would lose what little he has in SSDI and some of his health insurance. Sometimes I can work and do ok and sometimes I’m too ill. I stay with my mother who is elderly and needs my help and sometimes I stay at his place, a federally subsidized HUD place. His landlord just told him I”m not allowed to stay here more than 14 nights per year! So not only can he not get married, effectively he can’t have a girlfriend. I’m livid. It’s a human right to have family and relationships but the system takes it away and how is he supposed to have any hope in a world like this. People without these problems have no idea how lucky they are..to be able to get married without unreasonable penalties, to have your girlfriend of 5 years stay the night more than once each month. It strips him of his dignity and self worth. It’s caused him to relapse after steadily getting better for years. He doesn’t think his life is worth living now. Being alone in his cell waiting to die, he says.

I can easily count no more than maybe two or three women that are like you in America’s toxic, soulless, disconnected, hateful, paranoid, gold digging culture! I mean, you married a disabled man, and there are women all over America divorcing their husbands for having a slight drop in their (the husband’s) income, or because she met a man with more money.

Any low income American guys, disabled or not, who want to marry, have two choices; either get out of America, or chop their genitals off and declare all women as man’s #1 enemy and the celibate life as a cross that they shall carry.

Medicaid is the only thing to allow home health aids. With our expensive I surance it is not covered at all. My husband has to stop working so we could get the needed benefits.